Life finds its way to revolve around you even though we are trying to go our separate ways. It’s a bit too much, besar dugaan!
When a test comes to you, maybe through this trial, Allah has saved you from an even bigger trial.
“… but perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an, 2:216)
Masha Allah! :)
It has been more than a month and I still feel the same way. It lasted longer than I expected. I hope this won’t be an exception.
Do I really love him or have I not got something greater to replace it with?
What hurts the most is he’s right. Everything he said about all this..is so true no matter how devastating and mortifying..and terrible of him.. I’ve known it all along but I just lied to myself and kept pretending. I couldn’t face the thought of being alone. I couldn’t accept the truth.
What makes love last? It’s a question I’ve spent a lot of time contemplating. Well there are the cliché answers like: ‘love for the sake of Allah’ lasts. Well of course that’s true, but what does it mean to love for the sake of Allah? One could respect and even admire countless people for their devotion to God; but that doesn’t mean you could be in a relationship with all of them. So what’s the missing ingredient? Trial and error, observation, reflection, and a whole lot of supplication have led me to the following:
*What keeps a person invested in a relationship is *not* what they are *getting* from it—but rather what they are *giving* to it. If you, or the other party, are only receivers in the relationship, know that you (or them) will get bored very very soon.
*A relationship based solely on being filled by the other person will not last.
*A relationship based on dependency will cause you an inordinate amount of pain. Until you transfer your dependency to God.
